Category Archives: elderly parents

Finding my way back

After mom’s hip fracture in March of 2011 and move to the Skilled Facility, I wandered for some time, losing words, misplacing hopes, overestimating prognoses, and railing at for profit long term care organizations whose mission it is to imbue … Continue reading

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Moving and changing

Yesterday’s visit did little to relieve my feelings of depression and hopelessness. Now, wait a minute, Kathy. Hopelessness? Well, yes, kind of. I walked in to find Mom in the bathroom, struggling with painful constipation, and being assisted by a … Continue reading

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Turn Left at the Bird Cage

Past 11 days marked by trips to urgent care, a 3 day hospital stay (for mom not me), and currently 5-star cruise at the rehab unit/skilled nursing facility. Initially, mom’s transfer to the skilled nursing facility felt like a death sentence … Continue reading

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Of debriding, handholding, and getting tough with mom

Mom took a fall a week ago as she was getting up from her afternoon nap. Rather than pull the “help” string next to her bed, she took the “I can do this myself” route. About the same time her … Continue reading

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From whence my help shall come

A lot has changed since then. Since then, her forgetfulness diagnosis has received an upgrade to severe dementia; vascular dementia, not Alzheimer’s. Vascular dementia is caused by uncontrolled hypertension, for the most part. Approximately 20% of dementia is classifed as vascular in … Continue reading

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We are not defined by our brokenness

My 90 year old mother lives nearby in a an assisted living facility. I’ve had the joy to live in the same zip code with her since she relocated 3 1/2 years ago. On the eve of her moving, I … Continue reading

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Sense of humor is critical

I actually started this post yesterday, pleased that I had two funny stories to tell, thus giving One and All a lesson that humor helps along this path with aging parents. Then I found I could only think of ONE … Continue reading

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Just plain tired.

I rolled out of bed early this morning, for the THIRD day in a row. I don’t like to HAVE to get up early, though sometimes I will because I want to, which is then OK. But how I loathed … Continue reading

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What Happened Before, pt. V

The morning after learning that Mom had broken some ribs, I called Senior Services to ask how to get home health care started to assist Mom with showering so I wouldn’t have to. I had imagined myself coming to their … Continue reading

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Upon my return….

We got in late last night from three wonderful days at the family cottage with our two-year-old granddaughter and her “staff,” also known as parents. She is telling everyone, “I just turned two!” and has learned to hold up the … Continue reading

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