Category Archives: dementia

Finding my way back

After mom’s hip fracture in March of 2011 and move to the Skilled Facility, I wandered for some time, losing words, misplacing hopes, overestimating prognoses, and railing at for profit long term care organizations whose mission it is to imbue … Continue reading

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Adios to the Bird Cage

Friday, February 11th, one month since mom’s hospitalization, 27 days since rehab admission. At last the answer to mom’s persistent query, when are they going to let me out of this jail? Mom returned to her assisted living apartment in … Continue reading

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From whence my help shall come

A lot has changed since then. Since then, her forgetfulness diagnosis has received an upgrade to severe dementia; vascular dementia, not Alzheimer’s. Vascular dementia is caused by uncontrolled hypertension, for the most part. Approximately 20% of dementia is classifed as vascular in … Continue reading

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We are not defined by our brokenness

My 90 year old mother lives nearby in a an assisted living facility. I’ve had the joy to live in the same zip code with her since she relocated 3 1/2 years ago. On the eve of her moving, I … Continue reading

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What Happened Before, pt. V

The morning after learning that Mom had broken some ribs, I called Senior Services to ask how to get home health care started to assist Mom with showering so I wouldn’t have to. I had imagined myself coming to their … Continue reading

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Just before going to the cottage…

Today when I visited my parents, Mom was pretty good; we sat in the courtyard and enjoyed the warm though rather gloomy weather. She enjoys tickling and fooling around–swinging the two-person glider the opposite way to mess me up, for … Continue reading

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What happened before, pt III

As I reread parts I and II, I see that I have left events out, and mixed up timing, but the facts are there, even if disorganized.  An important event was that my mother finally gave up driving; my sister reported … Continue reading

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What happened before pt. 2

So a few more years trickled by with clues to Mom’s deterioration popping up now and then. One evening, she told a bunch of us visiting that she’d decided when she came to a stoplight, if no one was coming, … Continue reading

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What Happened Before, pt. 1

I first heard the uh-oh bell ring about six years ago. My mother called one summer afternoon from their summer home on Lake Michigan, and said she was making a pie crust and couldn’t remember one of the ingredients. Uh…what?! … Continue reading

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